You handled that little "meeting to talk" just perfectly. Do not jump at her bait. She accuses you of the very things she is guilty of doing. She wants to control and manipulate you. She wants the convenience of having you closer, so you can pick up the slack...….like, taking care of your son, running errands, taking care of the house, cooking, etc. She's seeing how being a single mom isn't quite like she thought ir would be...….so she has been buttering you up for this little talk.
Stick to your guns and do not agree to live with her in any type of "in-house separation",.....which is the epitome of cake eating for a WW. If she's not ready to sleep with you, and she can't agree to your terms......then she'll have to figure out how to take care of her son. You have a job now!
This is a critical part of this entire situation. I know you want your family back, but if you'll hold out......I think she'll eventually come around. But if you don't stand your ground and you agree to live under the same roof...... I promise she'll put you through hell. She's not ready to give up her single life and her new "friends". Remember these words when she starts to whine about what a hard time she's having and how unreasonable you are being...…"It's just not that simple now". Then if she asks why not, you tell her you won't go back to the previous situation before she left. I mean....why should you? Here's the thing......she didn't use the reconciliation word, did she? No, b/c she isn't serious. She just wants you for a babysitter. She's got a long way to go before she gets serious about moving back for the right reasons. So, don't trust her until she's ready to do the work. She's not there yet.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
