In fact, as I look back this whole "we can be friends until we meet someone we REALLY like and want more with" is the same dynamic.
Yeah I kind of get that sense as well. I just don't think things are going to progress beyond the friendzone at this point. In situations like this I always think of the phrase "fortune favors the bold." If you sit back and allow the status quo then the status quo is what you get, but if you want something different you've got to hop in the driver's seat and take control.
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But I have been mulling on AS's stance of you aren't or shouldn't DB her anymore. However, many of the concepts that DBing advocates applies to potentially new relationships too.
To clarify, what I said was that he's not dealing with a WAS anymore. I completely agree that DB'ing techniques are for life, many of them never end. I use DB'ing techniques (validation in particular) with my GF, my kids and even people I work with. Here's what I was trying to say and may not have been clear on- this isn't a case of pulling back and giving her time and space and being a "friendly neighbor" to her, because she is no longer a WAS. I also don't believe simply going dark is going to accomplish anything towards bringing her closer. I do think this is a case of "state what you want". That's not something you do with a WAS, but it is something you do elsewhere in life. If it were me I would just tell her "I get the sense that you just want to be friends, but to be honest I am looking for a romantic relationship. If that's too much for you then I think it would be best if we parted ways so I can pursue that with someone else." If she says she's not interested in that, THEN go dark.
