Good morning. I woke up to another text from WAW asking if I got my new car yet. I'll answer her later in the day but I sense she is preparing to ask to hang out tonight or tomorrow. I could be wrong but it's what I am sending is coming bad soon as I reply. I'll keep you guys updated.

Well Steve, I think you are confused because I myself was confused. As the day wore on yesterday I started to feel like I was being a jerk to her, for no reason really, by not replying at all. So I thought about it and determined that my REAL issue with her isn't the texting or the small talk...it's the meetups that were the annoying thing to me. They were going nowhere. So I decided that that's where I will focus my abstinence...on the meetups. That's what WAW wants most...to hang out...the texting she does is just to keep the reconnection we have alive so that those meetups can happen. But now I'm not going to be available for them as before. The meetups need to be in a romantic context. Say for instance this was a new girl and she texted me. I would answer her, but if I didn't see any romantic escalation with her she would drop to the bottom of the totem pole of priority for me. Meaning she wouldn't get immediate replies, she wouldn't get lengthy replies, smd she certainly wouldn't get a "friend" meet up. This is how I am handling WAW, the more she gives the more she'll get. Conversely the less she gives, the less she'll get.

ME: 43 W:44
M 13 years on 5-5-01
T 18 years
BD 4/27/14
D papers served 5/5/14 (how appropriate a date)
WAW moved out 5/12/14
Papers filed 6/27/14
Divorce granted 07/17/14
Our marriage ends 11/17/14