So the journey continues although nothing much has happened this week as my H is away until Sunday. He sent me two emails with the photos to which I politely replied valdating him but I haven't done any pursuing or bothered him in any other way. I also have been busy entertaining as my mother's sister (I don't like calling her my aunt because she is only 10 years older than I am) with her new bf is visiting .. they have been together for 3 months having met online, so it is lovely to see new fresh love blossoming and lovely to see her so happy. Both of them are divorced and in their 40ies which just proves that there is a life and happiness after D.
I am reading this wonderful book about Stoicism Deren Brown 'Happy' and it gives some great advice about how to manage anger and hurt, practice detachement etc... and in one page it has this very simple chart which says what we can control and what not.
So things under our control: Our Thoughts Our Actions
Things not under our control: What people think What people think of us How people behave How well people do their jobs How rude people are Other people's habits Other people's success How well other people listen to us How much our partner behaves as we wish him/her to What our partner fears or finds stressful Everything else
This pretty much sums up MWD book too- that our thoughts and our actions are the only things we can work on.
W34 H61 M1 T3 June-H said he wants divorce but hasn't filed. Living and sleeping in the same bed, no intimacy from H side for last 12 months.
