ut if I want to do that, and she doesn't, then why set goals, take small steps, etc if ultimately that isn't really detaching?
Because again detaching isn't disconnected. And I think that is where the confusion comes in. Detaching is about giving her time and space, but when she comes toward you being there. It is about removing pursuit and pressure, but not being absent, mean or unkind. Look. it is definitely more of an art than a science, no question about it.
I think i understand. I just think the book would be more beneficial to her, since i am/was convinced the MR could be fixed.
I do think at some point next week we'll be discussing some of this stuff. Itll be a month since BD.
Married: 15yrs Ages: Me 49, W 44 Kids: S12 BD: around 4/14
