ut if I want to do that, and she doesn't, then why set goals, take small steps, etc if ultimately that isn't really detaching?
Because again detaching isn't disconnected. And I think that is where the confusion comes in. Detaching is about giving her time and space, but when she comes toward you being there. It is about removing pursuit and pressure, but not being absent, mean or unkind. Look. it is definitely more of an art than a science, no question about it.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
