You might be right Steve, perhaps there is some hope, but if there is it is buried really deep and doesn't much affect me. I come to this forum because it is where I know people and people know me, and I have received a lot of support here, plus there is a lot more traffic here. Honestly, I have been feeling more resentment towards the W since I let go more, but I don't think I'll ever get to the place where I am bitching about what a jerk she is. I don't need that negativity in my life, and also other than dumping my arse, she hasn't really been a jerk.
I don't know that everyone needs to give up hope to detach. In my case I find that they go hand in hand.
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I don't view this as thread hijacking but helping T with is struggle about DBing vs. giving up and Ding her. Again, we all approach things differently, but I think you mentioned an interesting dynamic. "Honestly, I have been feeling more resentment towards the W since I let go more", this is the path to detaching. When the LBS realizes they are in the right and that they deserve better. Until then the LBS is usually assigning too much blame to themselves, and holding on to the WAS for dear life. So you are on your way Davide.
T, notice the above dynamic. Rather then rushing to file for D, which I fear is doing the dirty work for your WAW, I would strive for the attitude that you are in the right, and that you deserve better....and then start living like that. That is the secret sauce that wakes up some WAWs.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
