Thanks, Steve. This is just the hardest thing I've ever been through. On top of possibly losing the love of my life, I'm also staring at a financial mess and possibly my business going under to boot. Stress, on top of stress, on top of stress.
So, let me ask for some advice... since I'm usually the one at home in the evenings with our S during the week and can't go out, in terms of detaching and GAL, do I:
- Make enough dinner for her on nights when she's working late? - Make myself scarce when she gets home or spend it together as "a family" with our S (who is aware of what's happening, unfortunately)? - ????????? (is there anything else I can do?)
I know this week when I've made myself scarce, she's taken it as me just being mopey/sulky/angry and then feels like I'm neglecting our S (completely disregarding the fact I've been hanging out with him for a couple of hours already). I know I have to do what's best for me, obviously, but I would still like to maximize my chances with her.
I might be a little different than most here, but when it comes to dinner I advocate not changing much there. Make the same amount you normally would. The 180 there would be to put the leftovers away, then if she gets home and is hungry let her help herself. (Assuming you tried to wait on her when she got home and serve her the dinner.)
Yes make yourself scarce, but be upbeat, present, and positive when you do interact. (See my previous post on smiling!) More than likely you have been mopey, sulky and angry. Drop that as much as you possibly can. Kill her with kindness, but let her come to you!
The other thing you can do is to be busy when you are scarce. Do you have hobbies? You mentioned your business is there paperwork or other work that can be done in the evenings related to your business? Maybe working a few hours in the evening can save your business? Don't be scarce, but then just sit alone and stew. Keep that mind busy and active. Remember Proverbs 16:27 "Idle hands are the devil’s workshop; idle lips are his mouthpiece."
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