Terapin, I'm a bit late joining your thread but I really hope your wife will turn herself around. It sounds like you two had a good life together. That's odd she's a therapist herself and yet she's willing to leave her own marriage. I hope your DB techniques help and she realizes what she's doing before you're too far gone because it sounds like you won't be around forever!
Hi Nicole. Thanks for the kind words.
Yeah, everything about this sitch is hard to figure out. I do recall her saying a few times in the past when we'd have issues things like 'just because i'm a therapist doesn't mean I have all the answers when it comes to me/us'. Or she'd say like 'assessing someone else's sitch is totally different than my own'. I don't know why that is, but I guess I can understand it.
I also think, since she just got her degree a few years ago, that she maybe scribes to this 'new wave' therapy. I shouldn't even say 'therapy', but just the current culture of 'do whatever makes you happy right at this moment, and don't worry too much about any consequences'. lol. Maybe not that severe, but a few weeks ago when she said we're 'too far gone', I asked her: 'if a woman in your exact situation came to you for therapy/counseling, would you recommend she immediately divorce, or explore more options to work on the M". Her reply was: "i wouldn't recommend anything. I'd help her explore her feelings to find happiness."
Married: 15yrs Ages: Me 49, W 44 Kids: S12 BD: around 4/14
