Is there hope? I have a WW

[LANE777]

So Ive read through the last posts on my thread a few times. It really is starting to sink in.

Tonight I wanted to get out and do something with the kids. We went to a park and played Frisbee for a while and then we went to the near by college and hiked up on a hill and watched the sunset. Then went and got a icee. Ive made it a goal not to ask my kids about their mom or if they heard from her through out the day. I usually just get the bad news that she is getting ready to go out with friends etc. So when Im alone I plan on spending every minute on me and when Im with kids I will spend every minute with them. The GAL is something that I will have to force my self to do. I used to love coming home to the W and kids. Those days are gone!
After reading the comments I really got the message that its going to take a very long time for anything to fall my way and the silver bullet does not exist.

"Chasing someone who is cheating on you and dumping you makes you look very weak! "

This definitely hit home today....its so true. If I saw or had a friend doing this I would let them know how pathetic they are being. This is probably why some LBH lose it all.

I know I over analyze everything, Im a natural worry wort and it drives me and everyone around me crazy. If you guys can tell than its pretty obvious. Another goal is I am going to try to chill out and relax and stop thinking the worst. This will be a challenge for me but needs to be done. Another goal is to be more positive. I don't want to be that guy people avoid because " he's just going to talk about how miserable he is and how his W left him"

I know I am upbeat at the moment. Thanks again for the guidance. If there is anything you can think of let me know.
Im going to go read Accuray and Anotherstanders threads.

Right this moment I really want to win this. I know it will take discipline . I just want that shot of reconciliation, but need to go through the stages and the WW needs to go through the phases as well. Ive said it a few times, I don't want to mess this up.

Thanks again for reading out to me today. I needed it worse than ever for some reason.