wow, I get to start a new thread!! What a mile stone.

I read through the replies from everyone and WOW! Allot of great input. I have learned so much the last few weeks from all of you. I know allot of you have made the same mistakes as me and really emphasizing what NOT to do.
Vapo , Neffer, ballast, Steve the great and LH19 and of course Sandi. Today started out very rough, only because I knew my wife was up in the hills camping with her friends from work and you know who. I went to work early and then after a couple of hours thought I would check my thread. I didn't expect so many vets. It made me feel 10 times better and the reassurance on what I am doing. I really appreciate the constructive criticism too. Trust me, I study every word you guys tell me. I do not want to mess this up. I know its a marathon and know it will take alot of patience and time. I will re-read everything.
One quick ?
The quote ...Believe nothing she says and half of what they do.
Is that when W is telling about most anything? Like " Im ready to move on with my life" or things she said back right after the separation? like " I dont have feeling for you anymore and ILYBNILWY" and things like that? Just curious, right now all we talk about just the kids and I dont ask anymore ?s about R or M...everytime I did I shot myself in foot or she would say something that would hurt me to the core!
I want to go back and re-read the comments for today and study and may ask more ?s

Thankyou for caring about me and my ordeal. It means a great deal to me!


ME 47 W 38
M17 T20
Separated 5/20/18
D-bomb 7/9/2018 Nothing Filed
4 kids ages 6, 10, 14, 15