But I don’t be think she recognizes the subconscious pursuit distancer stuff.
I don't think YOU recognize it. Let me spell it out for you:
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Me- After not talking for a couple days you want to get to know me again. Then when I show interest you go to 1 word answers and stop talking. By the end I'm apologizing while you're on vacation w Ariel for her birthday. I'm too nice.
Pursuit.
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Her- I was on the beach w no service.It always feels so dramatic like your expectations are huge. I'm sorry
Distance.
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Me- I want to be able to be excited to get to know someone or build a friendship relationship or date.
Pursuit.
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Her- Ok
Distance.
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Me- You said you want to get to know me. Start w building friendship fine. Are you excited that I'm open to that. To going at your pace and trying my best. I could of said um no I have 2 or 3 women I'm dating and I'm good.
Pursuit.
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Her- I can answer later when D3 isn't breaking stuff
Distance.
Etc. Etc. Etc.
Do you know the chapter in DR about cheeseless tunnels? Some people set up a lawn chair in front of a cheeseless tunnel. You've built a 2 story brick house with every window and a huge patio facing down that black, dead, cheeseless tunnel.
STOP doing more-of-the-same expecting different results.
