DB / Detach, WAW... piecing

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I think she’s genuine in wanting to take it slow. But I don’t be think she recognizes the subconscious pursuit distancer stuff. She just goes by feeling and intuition. She thinks my expectations are too high. I don’t think she’ll ever just come back. I’m done texting I always lose In these exchanges. Back to being the distancer. Not responding to her picture and only going to respond minimally. What a Fn waste of time and energy. Can I offer someone money do handle these text conversations for me. Can’t do it anymore.


Me- After not talking for a couple days you want to get to know me again. Then when I show interest you go to 1 word answers and stop talking. By the end I'm apologizing while you're on vacation w Ariel for her birthday. I'm too nice.

I'm thinking this is what you want that's what you said you should be excited. And I'll come do a beach day with them tomorrow. Instead it's I have to think about it...

Do you see why Ive been backing away thats my only option. And it's going to continue unless you react differently.

Her- I was on the beach w no service.It always feels so dramatic like your expectations are huge. I'm sorry

Me- As I repeat myself about texting not being a good way to communicate

Her- ok sorry.

Me- I want to be able to be excited to get to know someone or build a friendship relationship or date.

Her- Ok

Me- You said you want to get to know me. Start w building friendship fine. Are you excited that I'm open to that. To going at your pace and trying my best.
I could of said um no I have 2 or 3 women I'm dating and I'm good.

Her- I can answer later when D3 isn't breaking stuff
Cool.

Me- Yes of course you know you can you know she always comes first.

Her- Why would you say something like that. Good luck w the multiple women then

Me- it was hypothetical. You just seem to have this expectation that I'll always be there.

Her- No.

Me- We can't text through these conversations.

Her- then stop texting.

Me- I did stop texting and it was hurtful and I was ignoring you.

No drama. No expectations. I'm not dating multiple women. I was making a point. You're busy. When I'm busy I'll say so I don't want to hurt you. We want to get to know each other. We can be excited that we have the chance. Expectations too high? Later.

Her- sends picture of D3 playing with her stepdad.

I’m back to detach barely respond mode. She can pursue me. I know she wants to try. Or maybe she just wants the money that’s not who she’s ever been but who the hell knows.