DB / Detach, WAW... piecing

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Thanks Hong... After the conversation below I am not going to reach out unless she does. I do want to go to the beach tomorrow to have fun with them but not pushing it... Back to DB and being not too available and all the other stuff I've been doing... I'm sure I did not handle the below perfectly and maybe pushed or pursued too much? But I was firm that I am not interested in being just friends? How do you think it went?

I said Id like to build trust and that can be at whatever pace it goes. The only commitment I would want is if we are spending time to get to know each other it's dating again at whatever pace. And were not dating others because that will kill trust. But I am not interested in being just friends.

She said- Im not dating and havent been for a while.

I said do you understand what I mean about being friends?

She said No

I said Im fine with going slow and getting to know each other. But as if dating someone new.

She said yea I think its important to build friendship while dating someone.

I said I agree. We never did that the first time. I want that foundation of friendship and trust because otherwise a relationship or marriage falls apart when it gets hard.

She said I agree.

I said I mean that the underlying attraction or desire has to be there. That feeling of hope it works out like when dating someone and getting to know them.

She said Yea I understand.

I said- You said you want to slowly be friends and see how that goes. If you take the firends out and we agree that relationships include close friendships do you want to start slow and see how it goes?

She said- Im going to think about it.

I said- Haha lol you are too much.

She said- Lol waht I need to reflect when Im alone and Im on the beach sorry for being short.

I said- Im sure youve spent a lot of time thinking on this. Lets not put any more pressure on each other.

She said- ok.

I said- No labels You'd like to get to know me let's leave it at that. I'm looking forward to getting to know you again. I'm sorry for the pain I've caused you. Let's move forward.