She's either playing games or she's genuinely interested in eventually reconciling, but scared. You've said she has anxiety issues, I believe.
You have to decide if you feel in your gut that she has genuine interest or is just playing games. You are obviously interested.
Can you go at her speed if you decide to take a chance that she is genuine? Your eagerness has often been sabotaging you thus far. If she is genuine, then there is merit to what she is saying. It will require discipline on your part not to get ahead of her feelings. Now isn't the time to ask her to commit to anything. But you have to decide if you have the patience and discipline to see this through knowing that it could still end up with her ultimately deciding she doesn't want to reconcile.
Small steps usually lead to more steps. There is obviously a lot more to DBing than the LRT. Re-read some of the other sections of DR as well. Re- read and then re-read again NMMNG. Then read it again. Respect, yours for yourself, and hers for you is vital and your NGS will derail the respect train. Maybe look for the book Connecting Through Yes by Jack Ito as another tool in your kit, and check out his website, too.
It's clear that you're going to do what you're going to do, Did. You clearly want to reconnect with your W and maybe you should start on that path. But don't do it by the seat of your pants. Restrain your pursuit. Don't be an unconditional friend, yet - boundaries are important right now. Reconnect at her pace. Don't pressure her for dates. Don't forget that she will almost certainly periodically temp check/test you to see if she can provoke negativity from you.
I wish you luck and look forward to seeing your updates.
You are aware that he agreed to support her for 3 months, by giving her $2400/month. right? Essentially funding her life away from him. Guarantee she thinks if she plays games she will get him to extend it past 3 months. And with Did's history it will probably work.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
