Your emotions are understandably raw at this point. You seem to be taking the right steps to heal yourself. I think that closing yourself off from further relationships is probably the right move for now, but in the long term it is cutting off your nose to spite your face. You are right that there are no guarantees and this could happen again, but a) hopefully you approach a new relationship from a healthier position with more skills, b) if you are more centered and sure of yourself you are likely to attract similar people. When you don't need someone to complete you but rather someone to share the happiness and joy that is already in your life I think relationships are more likely to work. Also, I think that living with that uncertainty and opening yourself up to be vulnerable is a crucial piece in living a full life.
Uk82, it sounds like you are hurting. That said, I would be cautious against overgeneralizing about all females (they aren't a separate species) or all younger people. Look around these fora, the WAS are men, women, older, younger. People hurt people. It can happen to anyone, by anyone.
W 34 Me 42 Married 7 years together 8 0 kids 1 beloved dog BD 4/6/2018 I moved out 4/7/2018 I moved back in alone 8/05/2018 I file 3/06/2019 D official 5/7/2019
