Did you feel like after a few days of no contact you felt like you really needed or wanted to try something to flip the switch back on? I feel like it constantly!!! This is so hard!! The longer it goes on the more I feel like its fading away.
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It is like the movie Ground Hogs Day around this boards. Different day same story.
What you are feeling right now is called the "illusion of action". You feel like you have to do something to get her back. When the best thing to do is do nothing and act like you are moving on. Every move you make should be based on the question "will this make me look weak or will this make me look strong?"
Chasing someone who is cheating on you and dumping you makes you look very weak!
If you become physically and mentally strong and centered and you have extreme patience I can almost guarantee you will have a chance to reconcile at some point. Most likely after you divorce. Just don't be surprised that when she comes to you to reconciled that you have already moved on.
When you have time read Accuray and Anotherstander's thread and you will see what happens when you put in the work.
