And also you are taking thing waaaay too personally. IT IS NOT ABOUT YOU, IT IS ALL ABOUT HER. She isn't doing these things to screw with you, you have simply vanished off her radar. You do not matter to her ATM. It is all about her. You might even hear her say: "I have always put other's needs before mine, now it is my time. My time to be happy." That is of course complete BS, but that's what it is.
Lane, buddy Vapo speaks the truth. I heard basically that exact quote. Basically a paragraph saying: Her time, focus on her and her needs. Make herself happy, find what she wants. It is purely selfish and ALL about her. To be on the receiving end of that as the spouse who loves her, I totally get how terrible that is. You need to come to acceptance, save yourself for your children and then let the chips fall where they will between you and her.
