No more denial, time to get to work

[STH17]

Hi MRay, I don't think I've read your thread before but I see a lot of similarities between our sitches. You seem to be two or three months ahead of me. There is a calmness in your writing that is comforting. It's also jawdropping to me that you can maintain such calm having gone through such a similar experience. My W is the only woman I've kissed too. I read about the 4 months of no sex after your first daughter was born; it was at least one year for me after my son was born. Sometimes I wonder if I remember that correctly, but all I can remember is at one time thinking to myself "it's been a year already!"

I was waaay more scared and anxious than you to talk to my wife about divorce or her moving out. My fears still hold me back now.

The friendliness b/t you and your W is very unusual to see on these boards, and is what got me to stop and take a closer look at your thread. I thought that's the way my sitch might turn out too, but my W pursuing a PA (a couple months after telling me she would never be able to have sex again in her life) took the wind out of my sails. I have basically told her I can't be friends with her unless we talk about that choice she made while I was working hard to repair our relationship. Now that is just another impasse. I'm trying to figure out what to do with my own life now.

Anyway thanks for being here.