WW-is there hope? Any advise from former WW's

[LANE777]

Had a brief phone call with WW about kids and bills for this month. It was short and brief. I did bring up the my D15 told me she was going camping with her work friends. She did get a little defensive "I'm only going for one night" ..I told her that i really didn't care that she was going. I did mention that while I work during the day and the days she is off she should try to spend time with the kids so they're not sitting home all day watching Youtube etc...She said she would try to spend time with them on Friday. It seems that her waywardness has her occupied. It seems to me the reason she is pushing Divorce is that she has to much on her plate. She has her kids, the OM, her Health issues and then me. So she is trying to eliminate me so she can have a sense of less things to worry about. The OM has broken things off with her but I think she is still pursuing him and he just doesn't know how to shake her...but probably enjoying it at the same time.
Like everyone on here. Its unbearable thinking about your WW infatuated with someone else.

I did run into my FI and visited with him about it for a few minutes. They did not realize some of the things shes been doing. Like not telling the full story. He did say that he knows things wont last with this OM and not happy with how she was handling things. He told me that he was surprised at her choice of being single. He said she acts very loopy or weird sometimes and reminded him of when she was a teenager. He also mentioned that she had been crying alot over the OM lately. I don't know. This is a tough pill to swallow for sure.

She does have papers filled out to give me but hasn't yet. I think when she gives them to me, I will take my sweet time. Depending on what she wants, I may have to tell her we need to hold off until the homes are sold or I at least have to refinance the house I live in. I cant afford anything the way it sits with out a 2nd income right now or eliminate debt and bills.

So, she still has not shown any remorse of anything. She doesn't look happy. She still acts like her mind is made up and this is what she wants. I don't ask of bring anything up about our R. I still feel broken that her love for my is gone and wants nothing to do with me at all. I realize its the WW way but I question it all the time if it is REAL. I keep thinking that this fantasy fog will end soon and I just have to wait it out. But the longer I wait the more crap she does. Like plan a trip for 2 somewhere...it just digs that knife deeper into my heart and soul.

Did any of you ever question or wonder if you were doing the right thing? Especially if you really wanted the R to work out?
Did you feel like after a few days of no contact you felt like you really needed or wanted to try something to flip the switch back on? I feel like it constantly!!! This is so hard!! The longer it goes on the more I feel like its fading away.
I just want a glimpse of something to fall my way. Everyday is a battle.

Alot of the vets and people going through similar sitch are very good at helping hang on just one more day or one more week...at this point one more hour.