Advice on my Scenario Pt. 22

[OrangeK]

Ginger, No i dont think that. I just dont get how you can all compartmentalize the way you do.
I cant seem to ever keep it at bay. It never goes away, its always in my head.
All the GAL in the world doesnt make it go away.


I cannot seem to move past the pain inflicted remorselessly. Over the lie of a MR, and relationship, over the cold, cold discard. It is inhuman to me what she did, and continues to do.
All the while acting like she did nothing wrong.

I also feel like there are no options. full Catch 22.

If i just do nothing, she wins (and SHE Is the one viewing this in terms of winning and losing)
If i stand my ground, i am the [censored] she portrays me to be, and she wins.
If I try to be nice and accommodating, she gets what she wants and can take advantage of me. She wins.

i dont feel like any option leads to a good outcome, so how am i to choose a path?

She twists everything to her advantage, she has a way to take ANY situation and make me feel like an idiot and a sucker.
How the hell do i move past that?

Even a seemingly positive exchange like the one earlier, ends with me feeling....violated and weak. Stupid and easily taken advantage of.

Some of my family encouraged me to "take my power back" and cut his hair, i opted instead to talk to her about it, and she said she would do it, and specifically asked his hair to be cut short because it is what HE wants.
I have a distinct feeling it will get cut the same way it did last time.
If i took him to do it myself without discussing it with her it would have turned into a huge fight.

Im glad you all can provide examples of you and your EX's communicating amicably and agreeing on simple matters, i would do that if i could, but everything gets turned into a federal case by her, even a simple thing like a haircut.

How am i supposed to avoid all these landmines while still walking across the field?
Im missing some piece of the puzzle and its killing me.