What my goal is now is to get D over with, and let the dust settle. I dont want an enemy for life, i wanted a life with this woman, now i do not, but i dont want a nemesis either. I just want things to get to the point a lot of divorced people here have, a calm, easy going situation where we barely have to deal with eachother, and when we do, it is not a pissing contest. that is all i seek.
We are telling you how we got there. We communicate minimally, we not P/A, we keep it to yes or no answers, we don't poke the bear, we don't react when we are poked (most of the time) and we take all personal emotions out of our communications and stick to the kids.
We are telling how to achieve it. We all lived it. Why not just say "it seems to have worked for your guys, I'll give that technique a shot?" Which only shows results when you can be consistent.
