I just cannot fathom the vilification of me (the LBH). Its like she projects all of her guilt, remorse, and bad decisions onto me like her crap choices were my fault. She knows she did this, its not like our MR went toxic over the course of 15-30 years. It was fresh and new, so there wasnt time to build the slow hatred i see in MLC affairs.
How does one justify the hatred when they know they are the ones at fault?
You make yourself the villain. She cheated, when are you going to think about letting it go so you can get on with your life?
You poke the bear in every conversation with her then find a way to justify it. Either you want to act mean or you don't. Your actions show more than your words here. That's why she is vindictive towards you.
She got excited talking about her child, probably not b/c she was talking to you.
H 34 W 29 BD 3/12/18 Divorce Busted Spring 19
It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.