thank you Steve, J9, ovrrnbw for your support and encouragement.
nothing much to say that hasn't been said already. I was a loyal, loving husband, definitely imperfect, but fully committed to doing whatever I could to make our MR happy. W threw it all away for whatever reason, best I can guess affair/MLC who knows and not one single finger lifted nor word did she speak to do anything to save it. there was nothing more cherished in my whole than my W and our family, but soon that will be all gone.
it's funny to me Steve, I've never thought of D NOT being the end. I guess having not been on here as long I just have no experience with that even being possible. not saying I'm for or against W and me possibly coming back around in the future, but to me D has always been the final nail in the relationship coffin.
j9...thank you for your perspective. like i say my main issue with keeping the house would be how future ladies might get freaked out by it. maybe it's a moot point to worry about, if the right lady comes along and loves me she will understand the circumstances and rationale for why I kept it. the allure of a move away and a fresh start are equally compelling though.
ovrrnbw...one thing consistent in my W besides being stubborn is that she regularly regrets decisions that she makes. i don't truly care if she D's me if she ever regrets it, just want to be set free to go on. more basically I don't think W will ever have the ability emotionally to admit a mistake nor even second guess herself and seek forgiveness?...no way she ever asks for forgiveness that would shatter her sense of control, always being right, etc....
