Advice on my Scenario Pt. 22

[OrangeK]

Here is how i feel

If i do YES/NO only communication, the grudges and everything will just stay where its been at.

If i continue to be persistent in demanding responsibility and so on, we will endlessly fight.

If i just play mr nice guy, she will walk all over me.

I cannot see a course of action that would result in fair, even, calm and honest communication.

im flummoxed here. I will readily admit what i have been doing doesnt and isnt working. I have been letting my emotions steer the ship and that hasnt worked out well.
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I guess my question is this, where she is still so vindictive towards me (except for right now....weird, see below)

They say true hatred is close to apathy.
It feels to me that if she truly hated me she would be cold and silent,
As opposed to this often hot, angry and argumentative responses.
This feels to me like she has A LOT of unprocessed emotions still.

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Oddly, Here is the last piece of the convo that i didnt post earlier.
10:30am

ME: "One last thing, where and when do you want to plan to do pickups and drop offs during the week he doesnt have school? So i can try and plan and make the schedule you proposed work for me?

He was dissapointed to learn he wasnt going to be going to my parents house"

EX: "Thats great about school" (referring to me mentioning he used the potty a lot at school yesterday earlier in the conversation)

ME: "Yep, Well shoot me proposed pickup / dropoff places whe nyou think of it,

He has been a delight all summer. He is one amazing Kid."

EX: "He really is incredible, and hes been so hilarious too! Always has me laughing and is co caring. Have you noticed how he plays with his toys and makes them talk and help eachother out and stuff? So cute!!
As for proposed meetups, i supposed it would depend who would have him that thursday before i reccomend options, just like on sundays where you can pick him up at my moms on tuesday and ill get him from your house on Thursday? Im open to ideas"
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She swaps moods like a lightswitch. Weird....