From what you writer just a while ago, I didn't see her asking to take anal steps. She texted "small steps are unacceptable?" That is not her asking and/or telling you that she wants to take small steps. That is her temp checking you.
And it worked. Within an hour you think that she wants to take small steps. That was a text, a reaction text bc her feelings are hurt bc you didn't respond to her stuff.
I can promise you, you need more than a text from her asking about taking small steps to tebuild.
You two would be talking face to face about that. Not a text message with 5 words.