If I choose anything other than to stay, I am putting my own happiness above my children's, which is of course not something a Mom would typically choose to do. I am really struggling with this, I don't know how I would be able to deal with their emotions if they were negative toward me. My kids are my reason for everything, especially now that there is no M left. So can anyone tell me how I can possibly shatter their lives?
Hello Helena, One of the things I feel very strongly about is that once you have kids you forfeit the right to play the " me first - me only card" You always have to put the kids first -they never asked for this. For my sitch as you have been following my S doesn't want any interactions with W. I have tried to facilitate but I now know to stay out of the way. My S has only visited my W place once for a meal where he said he doesn't even remember how his mom looks because he did not want to look her in the eye. For me that would be the ultimate rejection and having to live with out interaction from my S would result in slow painful death. I do not have an answer but pray that you and your family find a peaceful solution for you all. Blessings!
M51 w50 T-20Yrs M-16Yrs S15- mad at W for not trying and giving up 1 Awesum dog BD 10/31/17 separate rooms 02/08/18 wife moved out 05/17/18
