Something about all of this but doesn’t add up for me. On the one hand, you’re commenting here on all of the garbage things W is doing, saying how she’s lying and stealing, saying how you can’t trust her, saying you don’t care what she thinks, etc. but on the other hand, you’re letting her loiter in your house for an hour at a time, you’re getting phone numbers from other women in front of your kids, you’re commenting and discussing your weight loss wand hair cut and such with her repeatedly. I don’t know. It all just feels very passive aggressive and all feels like pursuit to me. I mean - she was 90 minutes late in the morning and in the evening, you let her hang around for over an hour - so was the morning issue not important?
At drop off, have plans with the kids. At pick up, have the kids ready to go and have plans for yourself. Stop with “dating” especially in front of your kids. Stop talking about W and your focus on your changes (especially physical) ones with your kids.
I’m just having a hard time understanding your plan and your goals. I think you would still like to R but at the same time, it feels like you are just trying to get her to feel badly or to get “even” or to hear an “Im sorry”. I can’t teally tell. In any case, it feels focused on getting something from her rather than where YOU want to be.
Exactly..
It is the only situation on this site that i have ever walked away from. The vast majority of this makes no logical sense at all.
If you look at the very first thread its the same pattern over and over again.
