My sitch has been weird since I have been physically separated and there hasn't been any developments until tonight. Funny thing is, the three times my W has texted me about our marriage, I have been with the same buddy GAL. I legit told him I think our friendship is done (LOL!).
It's been about a month and a half since I have had any contact from my wife, but tonight she texted me (not vertbatim):
"I haven't heard from you in over a month. Wondering where you are at with signing the papers (simple divorce and not required for me to sign). It's not fair for either of us to live our lives in this state... (Funny she brings up fair considering she was the coward that left me on BD and flipped my world upside down).
I can't come back, I take fault, I apologize, etc. (LOL)
I don't buy any of the last part. If she took fault, her family wouldn't have disowned me.
My initial thought is anger considering she doesn't have the decency to call me and talk about this. She's conflict avoidant, so I guess it's to be expected.
We are both Christians, as well as our families, but her family are charismatics, meaning feelings trump scripture during trials unfortuantely. I have grown considerably in my faith in following Jesus, but her family seems to be the basic Christians that non-believers talk about. No substance when things hit the fan.
Brothers and sisters, any advice in my sitch? Based on my beliefs, there are no grounds for divorce. I don't want to file.
At this point, the only thing I can think of doing is calling her out for he sins, both against me and God, but I know that probably won't have an impact.
Unfortunately, her words and actions line up, as she quit her job in our state and is actively searhing for a job where she is currently living.
Completely lost TBH. I know my marriage is likely over. I just struggle that the person conversing with me is someone I have never met before.
