Eryam, I hope things can cool off and divorce doesn't come up again. I guess things that I've already written remain the same. From a total outsider's perspective it seems you should try to stay in during your night's out if you want to work things out, but it's still worth determining whether your husband is abusive or controlling in a way that's unhealthy for you and your kids or if he's a good man who is frustrated and possibly got pushed over the edge when you started going out with other men. Based on what you determine it may or may not be the best thing to try to save the marriage, but in general it seems to be best for the kids to save the marriage unless there's something really bad happening. I hope it works. I hope you can do exactly what needs to be done to reverse your husband's decision to file. Good luck!
