Hi Cory, I'm so sorry to read your update. That is devastating. It's like losing half of yourself. I went back and read your first post and see that you had been building a house and trying to have a baby. I can't believe you went from that to getting a divorce. It's obviously just because your wife had an affair and it changed her perspective on everything. What your wife will learn the hard way is that those feelings of exhilaration and happiness she thinks she's feeling will fade, the affair isn't likely to last, and the freedom she gains from divorce will turn to loneliness. She threw away everything for what? You sound like a dream husband. I can't believe there's a husband out there who thought his marriage marked the best years of his life. My husband said the opposite - marriage is a trap and he's miserable. I wasn't even a controlling woman. I changed for the worse towards the end after his first affair but before that I was just like you and provided everything and love my husband with all my heart. So it's strange now to think that a guy like you exists and your wife didn't appreciate it. Even towards the end after she said she wants a divorce it sounds like you handled it well and did everything possible to save the marriage. This phenomenon of someone abandoning a loyal, loving spouse and trashing everything they built together with their spouse just has to be worse than death or disease. It's just so unfair to do this to someone. How selfish to leave your spouse like this. It's beyond sad. I'm deeply sorry that you've had to go through this. It'd be nice if you could post updates once-in-a-while after the divorce. It would be helpful to know if your wife tries to come back later on once she realizes what she lost.
