Patience, DB, Detach... piecing or divorce

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Steve- thanks a lot for your time I appreciate it.

Hong- I appreciate your wording too.

Loves- your perspective as a woman is definitely appreciated also. My W is kind of unusual in her sensitivities social anxiety etc. She has never wanted to sleep together or have any intimacy since she left. And if she did come back I know she would only want to be with me if she was not with someone else. Thats just the way she is. She would never share me she has told me as much months ago.

Keep up the support / advice on lack of response and how to respond... that is really helpful. I will read NMMNG again.

One thing in regard to cheating etc. She left, told me she was leaving wasnt in love w me etc. She lived at her moms and started dating / sleeping with someone. We werent sleeping together at the time whatsoever. She did come back after she broke it off with OM and then we tried to be together for a couple days. She had all this anxiety and couldnt be around me.

Also she started dating when she knew I was. I was dating someone maybe 6 ago I was really excited about... the girl was a model and attorney extremely successful. We had a handful of dates and it started off well then I pushed and tried to fill the void. This was before I read NMMNG DR, or found this forum. I wasnt ready to date and Fd it up with a really great woman. When W saw her friend me on facebook and instagram she immediately started dating new people. W told me she cried after the dates with some of these guys.

Yea W has some growing up to do. For sure she has some healing to do. I cant do it for her. Do I want it to change F yea. So I am taking your advice.

I have not responded to thank you text from her. I want to say youre welcome as Hong mentioned but I think that will stem further texting conversations I dont want to have anyway.

She has been inviting me over for breakfast and wanting hugs etc. Thats nice but Im not looking to be her buddy. I told her I want to do birthday for D3 separate and she cried. Like I cant come? I thought maybe we could do some cake and have a little party just the 3 of us... I already said we could do that... maybe NGS... I am going to get a hotel and stay over at a waterpark with D3 and my parents W is not invited.

Thanks again- keep the advice coming... I'll keep posting.