Did, I think that's what it takes, man. Listen to Steve85. Respond to specific questions with specific answers. Otherwise, don't respond.

In person or in phone conversation, things can be a little more back and forth, but still let her do the vast majority of talking and you just be friendly and validate and agree as much as is reasonable - don't give advice or offer solutions if she talks about her problems, just validate. And as you already know, you end the interaction first whenever possible.

Texts and emails (from you a least) should at this time be used ONLY for necessary brief informative exchanges and as simple of answers as you can provide to direct questions. NO SUPERFLUOUS LANGUAGE ON YOUR PART. It doesn't matter how chatty her texts/emails to you are. You DON'T have to respond to everything or address every little point she makes. In fact you should not respond to anything other than what is absolutely necessary.

Don't thank her for pics. Don't thank her for apologies. Don't tell her you hope she's enjoying herself. All unnecessary responses. Period.

You can if you want to respond to the thank you for the bubbles with a simple "you're welcome" and leave it at that. But it really doesn't require a response either. Going forward I urge you to keep it simple and brief no matter how tempted you are to throw in a little nugget of warmth or affection. Texts and emails for right now in your relationship should be cold, robotic and to the point.

I know I'm just telling you stuff you already know and have been told repeatedly or have read yourself. But it's one thing to know it and another to do it with consistency. I'm not trying to be condescending to you, rather a 2x4 is what I'm aiming to do. I hope for the best in your sitch and I think you have a real chance at eventually reconciling. But you need to go all in on pulling back, as uncomfortable as it is. Let her keep pursuing you for now.


M: 40 W: 37
T: 20 MR: 13
S13, S9, S4
BD: 1/29/18
Sep: 4/23/18 (I moved out)
8/24/18 I come home, she moves out

If you want to get out of the hole, drop the shovel.