Hi Irish, just to offer my pennies worth , EXW has to be struggling with the loss of her family.amd D's ( though who knows how much) . Is she ill or is it MLC or is it who she has become ? It doesnt really matter , you are dealing with your life , your Ds growing in to adults and having to deal with so much more than an ' average ' teen ( obviously there is no average ) and through it all you are being a great parent. The letters from her L are nonsense and I'm glad your having them stopped. It's unfortunate but i would concour with other posters that there is a method to her madness but it's not even worth wasting thought on imho.
I was chatting with a lady recently and we were discussing single parenthood. Her father left when she was 4 months and was always a weekend dad. I mentioned how my father left when i was 11 and she was so upset for me because she always considered herself to have 4 parents , her biological mum and dad and her step mum and dad. She really made me think because while we all might share an experiance , we all experiance it very differently. Your Ds have their own thoughts and feelings on what's going on and gone on in their lives.. I sense you aren't terribly comfortable with all the praise you ( deservedly ) get on here but as someone in your position re the mother leaving i have an idea of the emotions, etc from your D's that you are dealing with and i applaud you for keeping them to the forefront but also living your own life too. It's a delicate balance but again you manage it in a way that deserves admoration and your a guide for alot of us on here.
Keep on being the rock for the young ladies, take care , Rd
