T, you are not obligated to respond to her. No matter what she said. The text exchange you sent earlier was hardly communication. I don't think she meant texting about her FB unfriendings was what she meant by #1 problem in our M was communication.
Your impulses are going to ruin you. I can tell you are a very impulsive person. You have to try to get control of that. Even in the filing for D. Are you just doing her dirty work for her? Is there any part of you that thinks maybe she is acting in this way hoping you'll get fed up and do the dirty work?
Trust me, I know you're right. No, her communication comment the other night was in regards to this whole new sitch erupting, and rather than talking about it, I left to go to a friends.
As for filing, yeah, as of a few days ago i wouldn't even have considered filing. if she wants the D, she can do the dirty work. But after discovering the EA, lies, etc, i kinda felt backed into a corner of needing to take action. I mean, what kind of idiot loser would I be to not take action right? (at least that's what went on in my head).
I know there's no timeline about WAW/WW's snapping out of the fog. And I know that she's still in it, and is a mental mess right now, since her whole world is crashing down around her. But at the very least I think she finally has started to see how her actions have damaged not only me, but her closest friends. I don't think she accepts total blame for it yet though, but maybe it's a start.
So again, just maintain silence tonight? If she asks if i filed, just say 'no'?
Married: 15yrs Ages: Me 49, W 44 Kids: S12 BD: around 4/14
