I honestly have no idea what I'm doing now. My head is spinning in a million directions, and I can't retain focus on anything.
Which is exactly why you should take a time out. THERE IS NO HURRY. Neffer, Steve and I are all telling you the same thing, just take a time out from the craziness.
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I think she's been so far in fantasy land and lying to everyone (even though she denies lying about anything, except to me) that she can't even keep her lies straight.
Yup. That doesn't mean there's no way back though. Lots of marriages have come back from this or even worse.
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she hasn't said anything about working on us, or her feelings have change towards us.
Recon is not on your radar right now. We're not telling you it is. We're just telling you that you need some time FOR YOU.
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But I feel if I don't file, it will be taken as a bluff on my part.
Who cares whether she thinks you are bluffing or not, that doesn't matter. She's a lying cheater right now, what do you care what a lying cheater thinks or says or does. We're telling you to take a breather so you can sort out what YOU want and what is best for YOU, because that is what matters.
Incidentally, being a lying cheater now doesn't mean she will always be. That's not who you married, right? So this may be a temporary thing she's going through.
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If I do file in the next few days, I feel it'll be done too for the wrong reasons (anger, resentment, etc).
Agreed. So don't. Again, there's no hurry. You can file now and always wonder if you did it out of anger and resentment or you can wait a couple of months and know you did it after serious thought and contemplation.
