Patience, DB, Detach... piecing or divorce

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If anyone is reading this please read the last paragraph and shoot me a quick reply / advice as I havent responded to her texts...

Just dropped D3 almost D4 now off to W at a starbucks. I am going to do some work, get lunch then go to a meeting. Definitely feeling some emotions dropping off D3 she says something like I hope youre not sad youre not coming to the beach with mom. I said Ill just miss you Ariel but youll have fun and Ill work so that when you get back we can do something fun for your birthday. Waterpark talk ensues. We have always gone to the beach for D3s birthday. Last year in the turmoil of separation we tried to still do this trip and it was a trainwreck. Mostly because W was a freaking mess and crazy person at the time. I played lacrosse was hurt then got D3 to bed in this tiny bed then came down and anything I said she'd freak out... and still in her mind I'm to blame for all that...

Anyway I got D3 in carseat gave her a kiss pet the dog. Was ready to get the F outta there. W waiting outside the car now she seems to want a hug. She says do you want a hug, it was awkward... I gave her the 1 arm WAS hug lol. Then she said oh youre going to do that now. I said why do you want a real hug and she says yea I do with enthusiasm. So I hugged her. Im not pursuing it anymore though. Not sure if I should of been more tough I know W is having a hard time with life in general. I dont think there are other men involved at this point but it doesnt really matter. Thoughts on how I played this?

Then I get into coffee shop and she texts me you going to a date? Wearing cologne... meanwhile in reality Im wearing cologne for her to notice but I cant tell her that... to avoid the BS long texts and games I just said no. Drive safe hope you guys have fun. She said thanks. Sorry thought that you must be having a coffee date. I havent replied, should I say anything? I dont necessarily want her to think Im on a date then she'll start dating. Maybe Ill just say something validating her concern... on to the validation thread... thanks all!