I am so sorry that she's still at it and can't get it. As for her lawyer, well, all he sees is dollar signs and even though he knows the law, he is going to do to what his client requests of him/her. He/she may have advised her to drop her silly nonsense, but your xw may have persisted. Your lawyer should be able to nip all of this in the bud with the recent letters.
Your daughters are old enough to know what they want and they are no longer 5 years old. She can't accept that they are just about grown and do not want to be involved in her drama. Some day, they will forgive her for her nonsenses, but it will be a long time coming. As for your xw, I pray that she gets professional help to help her navigate the muddy waters that she has created.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
