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I kinda get it. After the exhaustion of dealing with crazy exBF, I went through a period where I was perfectly happy to go back to being just one of the women in rotation with my old Love Avoidant friend.He was excellent company when I saw him and he required nothing of me when I wasn't there. I would have liked to have had a little more of him but always understood that wasn't his deal. If he hadn't ghosted me I'd probably still be happy with that arrangement.

But since he did I dipped my toes back into the dating pool and was promptly snapped up by Caterpillar Mustache Man. (Really its fine in person lol). I feel like the Avoidant now because he wants to fall madly deeply in love and I'm just........ cautious. It's going well so far - I think perhaps I'm just too jaded/experienced/analytical to let myself jump all the way into the deep end yet. If he wants me he'll just have to be patient with taking it slow emotionally. (But I'm enjoying the regular sex which he is kind of genius at.)

You're right, dating is a lot of work. You can just have FWBs if you prefer. But make sure this is your choice and not just about your insecurities,