Letting go for my own inner peace

[Irish M]

Hi Everyone

thanks so much for the birthday wishes of now D16 and D18
was a busy 10 days. Throw in my dads birthday and my older brother. NO MORE CAKE.. please.. no more.. ok ok.. only if it's ice cream cake. Way too hot here still, i could eat that all day.

Well, I did speak to D18 about her mother. She wants to be involved with everything and wants to know. D16 doesn't.
D18'd face did drop but a few minutes later she said " what is she thinking? Dad, is there no one in her circle seeing this crazy stuff and stopping her?"

I told her, most probably but put yourself in your moms shoes, she feels what she is doing is right. She won't listen to anyone. So even if someone said .. hey.. what the heck are you thinking.. she would just cut them out.

We both agreed to not share the wedding with D16. Respecting her wishes.

Last friday, I get a new letter from her lawyer.

Mr, Irish. this is the last time we ask that you share information about your D16. Her mother is upset that her role as a mother is put to the side. She should be involved in every aspect of her D16 health and life.

We give you until the 15th to share the hospital info of where and when the scan is happening and the name of her doctor that is following her.

Please remember , do not under any circumstances send this information directly to our client. We will forward it to her.


WHAT??? my god they are persistent.

I replied.

My lawyer will be in touch.

Do they not know the laws in this province. She is 16, not 5.
Her being concerned ? after a year and a half of no reaction to my updates on this.

My lawyer is drafting a letter reply. Stating that if either her lawyer of herself contact me or the girls we will file a law suit for harassment. These letters have to stop. It's clear manipulation.

My lawyer is now representing my D16. I brought her up to speed as she needed to write her mom a letter stating that she no longer wants to be contacted directly or through a 3rd party such as her grandparents or other family or friends parents.
That she, when ready will reach out to her mom on a healthy field.

So i also updated her about the wedding. She was shocked at first but said she expected her to marry the first guy so who cares, her problem. I'll never meet him or accept him.


So my lawyer will send this to her lawyer and close a huge door. XW has crossed the final finish line but in the wrong direction.

My lawyer will also advise her lawyer that he crossed a line and what they are trying to do is abusive and if continued will finish in a law suit as well.

with all that said. The girls hold the power in all this now. If ever they want to connect she isn't hard to find. Let's pray their mom finds a safe place in her life so this could happen. Until then.. let's all stay away.


D16 has a few tests to perform and we should get results from the last scan on the 15th. I have faith she is fine and will be for a long time. Her episodes have disappeared. No more fainting or losing vision. No more dizzy spells or headaches for quite some time. I am expecting great news.

i'll update you all on Wednesday :-) just don't tell my XW