Consistency and patience. Keep working on yourself and being the best you. Don't let her catch you off guard and suck you into a fight - she will probably try again. If you keep being consistent, with any luck you will start to notice less frequency and intensity with it. Good luck. I really wish I was where you were at. I'm meeting with lawyer next week for a free 30 minute consultation and I'm going to specifically ask what my rights are with regard to my moving back in. I think you've done exactly the right thing and the work you've put in on yourself since you've been out is going to pay off one way or another.
M: 40 W: 37 T: 20 MR: 13 S13, S9, S4 BD: 1/29/18 Sep: 4/23/18 (I moved out) 8/24/18 I come home, she moves out
If you want to get out of the hole, drop the shovel.