It was an up and down weekend. I spent a lot of time just hanging out with my S, and also quite a bit of time working on future career endeavors.
Ths week i get to look for more lawyers and get as much advice as possible. The W wants to handle everything without lawyers, but im not sure how well that will work. Shes still under the impression we can live together and finish raising our S until he is done with school. Other than that, because i was a stay at home dad for the most part, she wants to cut me out of any equity in the house, any of her pension or investments, or anything else basically. Sounds like this is becoming a common theme for H's who paid for everything while W finished school and then the W takes over and they switch roles. I really rhought we were a partnership. Guess i was wrong.
This really [censored] that i dont even have a choice in this. Financial issues and an impending D are really weighing on me. I also have to get started looking for a new place too. The idea of sharing my S is killing me. Hes my life, and i want hkm with me everyday. Ive given everything to him and W over the years.
I want to get started taking classes asap. I just want to dive into it so i have something to occupy my mind for quite a bit, and better myself at the same time.
They all want to handle it without lawyers. That only works in 1% of Ds. Don't fall for it. You are about to go through a legal process and you need legal advice.
My W wanted the same. One of the huge wakeup calls to her was my contacting a lawyer. Reality is the only thing that snaps them out of it. The reality that D isn't an easy push of a button can sometimes be that reality.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
