OM. Alcohol. None of that matters. And you shouldn't focus on any of that.
Here is the thing, they almost ALWAYS trade down. My W was 49. The first guy she went after was 38 or 39. And a huge loser. Lived with his elderly father. Unemployed. Drove a 2001 Pontiac Sunbird. Had a criminal record.
The second guy, whom she claimed was only a friend (I believe her because I don't think he was interested in more) was 42, makes 1/3 of what I make, divorced with 2 kids. Claims his EX cheated on him but he cheats with other married women so I don't believe him.
The point is that it isn't about OM. It is the fact that she is OPEN to another man. I posted a long post a couple of weeks ago that gave reasons why it isn't about OM. Focusing there is a cheeseless tunnel. If it was not THAT OM it would be another OM. There is no shortage of losers that are willing to sleep with other men's wives out there.
Waywardness is the problem with your W. And you will need to be practicing DB with a tough love spin. Hopefully sandi will take an interest in your sitch because she is much better equipped at dealing with WWs (being a former WW herself) than most of us traditional DBers.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
