He is not too self aware. He is trying to replace his marriage and his last R.
I don't know how in a blink of an eye it went from everything being great to going to immediate sh!t. It really stinks.
G, read back what you wrote. Did it go from being great to immediate sh!t? He didn't change at that moment, hes still not self aware, hes still trying to replace his marriage and last R. From the beginning I thought he was trying to rush into things with you. You mentioned it wasn't getting too serious or emotional too fast, but to me the holding and sleeping together would have been MORE emotions than just sex. I might be emotionally avoid-ant now but from my past, just like Zeus mentioned, jumping to fast into a R has only caused me problems so its something I'm super guarded against happening again. I don't know if this guy can lead to anything or if hes really in a healthy place for a R, that your call to make as you know it better. Just take some time and really consider if its just the idea of being in a R that appeals to you and you might be overlooking his issues to get there. Hugs regardless
Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be
