Great points, great clarification. Thanks guys. However, without trying to sound like I’m making excuses, I already do lots of stuff with the kids when I have them and always have. But W is constantly moving goal posts and pulling the rug from under me with her own plans. For example, yesterday I got kids all bathed and ready for a day out at mini golf. Kids were excited. W comes back from her sisters where she had been overnight and suddenly my D doesn’t want to go golf, she wants to be with mummy. W is calling shots on when she is going to be there and when she isn’t. Massive cake eating. If I resist it causes a fight. I’ve avoided the babysit thing because I want to be with them. Maybe I’m enabling the cake eating by doing this?
