Keep DBing. Don't be surprised if she initiates episodes of testing behavior again. Just be steady in your reactions. Consistently show her you're a better you. Keep doing you and focus on the kids. Maybe she's coming around a little, maybe she isn't, but patience and consistency on your part will do nothing but good.
M: 40 W: 37 T: 20 MR: 13 S13, S9, S4 BD: 1/29/18 Sep: 4/23/18 (I moved out) 8/24/18 I come home, she moves out
If you want to get out of the hole, drop the shovel.
