Am I coming or going?

[Dawn70]

First and foremost, (((((((((((((((((((((((((G)))))))))))))))))))))))))))).

Now that is out of the way, I'm so sorry for all of the crap that has been flung at you. Life just royally [censored] sometimes and it seems like you continue to get the short end of the stick. I am not going to go back and rehash things that have already been said, since I'm late to the game but would like to offer a few comments based on your most recent post.

I have read all the posts you made and those who responded to you and I agree with Don. I'm glad you reached out to him and I think your next step is to actually have a face to face conversation. You say that you don't know if you can ever get past what he said and I get that, but at the same time, if you want to have an honest, open chat and try to move forward, you have to figure out how to NOT go into it with that thought in your head. I could well be wrong and maybe I'm mind reading here, but if you say that, it is almost like you are dooming the chances of recovering what could be a nice relationship from the get go. It's kind of like saying well I'm going to diet, but I refuse to lose weight. You know what I mean? Maybe you should spend some time to really think about if you even want to try to patch things up and if you do, then reach out, talk, try to put what he said aside. I know, it is easy for me to say that because I'm not in the moment. I'm so sorry that it worked out the way it did, but I do believe, IF you really want to fix it, it can be fixed. He seems reasonable, based on your descriptions.

Now, the house thing is just screwed up all the way around and I feel so bad for you. BUT, while I applaud you for sitting D10 down and talking to her about it, G, YOU are the parent. I totally understand and respect that you are taking her feelings into account, but you are an adult and she is a child and you know that sometimes you have to do things that you don't necessarily want to do. I realize that you do not want to move her any more than she wants to be moved. She doesn't get this now, but someday she will. When she's older she will understand that adults sometimes have to make tough decisions that do not have the best foreseeable outcome, but you are doing what you have to do to provide the best life for her. Of course moving schools would be hard for both of you, but better to do it now while she's still young than to have to do it in a few years when she's earning credits for graduation and looking at her future and selection of classes is more of an issue, if that makes any sense at all.

My heart really goes out to you, G, for all of the negativity that has surrounded you lately. I'm keeping you in positive thoughts and prayers and praying for a ray of sunshine to pop through that big old cloud covering you SOON.