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[jaylove]

Jay love, you are doing very well to hold it together like you are. Our sitch are so so similar. Unfortunately we are screwed regarding the family home, it does need to be split in half. But there are way of doing this (in the UK) at least such as deferring the sale until the children are older if this is their main residence. This is something I am going to explore with my L if we get to that point, which now seems inevitable.

My advice for what it’s worth is be consistent for the kids and remain calm at all times as hard as it is. I know and I’ve slipped myself.

Thanks Uk
Part of the problem is that W inherited a lot of money two years ago when her mum died and that has given her choices - she’s been spending it frivolously in the past few months as its likely that it will have to be put in the pit for settlement so we both can get a house close to the kid’s school.
The believe nothing she says and half what she does saying is very pertinent as she says she wants what’s best for the kids but clearly trying to blow her money so I “don’t get my hands on it” isn’t going to ensure we both end up with a suitable house.
I bought our house after losing my first wife, with a generous donation from my late wife’s parents. I stupidly transferred half the title deeds to current W two years ago and now, after she put in 50k towards our smallish mortgage, she can walk with 600k- how that is considered fair under U.K. law I’ll never know.