New behaviour and nice is worrysome. MLCers can be very manipulative to get what they want or need at that moment in time. Tread cautiously. I am concerned she is being nice due to upcoming court date.
So a year basically without texts or pictures, and now she sends some. I can see how it is confusing you. Focus on you and kids.
She is still in her tunnel and has a long way to go.
Originally Posted by marina7
When am pulled away W has a way of playing with our emotions.
You’ve read my sitch, so you have read my thoughts on detachment. Being accurate in thought and feelings will bring clarity and detachment.
From above, W does not have a way of playing with your emotions. You control what you think and feel. Do not give her power over you, or control or influence over your feelings.
Yes our spouses can and do hurt us, but it is ourselves that prolong that hurt and suffering. Realizing that will allow you to greatly regain control of your feelings and thoughts.
In an attempt to be more clear: Your W does something hurtful towards you. You then feel hurt. You see, you create the feeling of being hurt, panicked, etc. She can’t create the feeling inside of you, only you can do that.
So since you create the feelings, you can lessen, and eventually not even create the feelings - Detachment.
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
