My Xw made a comment to mutual friends that she is so thankful that she is going through this process with a man like me. That statement alone made me realize and accept that this is way more about her than me, that she would be Ding anyone who would be in my shoes, and that I am not capable of providing her what she is currently looking for. Early on she told me that she is not built to be this stereotypical mom, living in the suburbs, going through the daily routine of raising kids, and being a family. When she bought her condo on a busy street she commented that this felt like her.....being single again, dating, minimal responsibility, like she was living a fantasy life of what maybe she had envisioned her life being like before us.
The sooner you can accept and understand these things the better off you will be. Also...just because you see intact families walking around doesn’t mean they are happy either! All of you will be just fine.
